Acceptance- A Key to Inner Peace- Episode 4

What if embracing life's toughest challenges could lead to profound inner peace? In today's episode we will unfold the power of acceptance through a compelling story about a king and his assistant. This episode sheds light on how welcoming life's difficulties with an open heart can shift our perspective and build our resilience. We will explore practical strategies to help you recognize what you can control and how to respond positively, freeing yourself from the grip of anger and victimization. Discover how acceptance can be a pathway to personal growth and healing, fostering a deeper sense of peace.

We then touch into the role of self-compassion and mindful breathing in achieving both mental and physical acceptance. Tune in to learn how these practices can transform your life, and don't forget to share your feedback for future episodes as we continue this journey toward greater Peace. 

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Chapters

• 0:01 Acceptance for Inner Peace
• 12:11 Acceptance and Self-Compassion

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:01

Hello, salam, everybody. Welcome back to In Peace with me, delene Abou-Chaban. I'm grateful to each one of you for the great engagement in the very first week of the podcast. Really grateful. Keep coming, keep sharing. Let's all reflect, heal and grow together and create a bigger peace in this world. In today's episode we're going to talk about a really important topic for our inner peace and this is acceptance. And I'd love to start with a story that I really love as an example of this and very supportive to the king.

Speaker 1: 1:08

So whatever would happen in the town, he would always go say it's all good, it's all good, and that at times used to annoy the king really, and even and that at times used to annoy the king really, and even sometimes, if there is a flood, the assistant would say it's all good, it's all good, something good would come out of this. And then something else happens, like the daughter of the king. Something happened to her, she's not well, and the assistant, to make the king feel better, he'd say it's all good and the king would say how is that good? He keeps asking and he keeps wondering and sometimes even gets angry with the assistant, especially when something bad happened to the king. They were on a hunting trip and the king got a really bad injury. And then the assistant again said it's all good, it's all good. So until then the king couldn't take it anymore and he ordered that the assistant must go to prison. And that what happened Then? One day the king went on a trip Obviously the assistant was not with him because he's in prison so he was on his horse just walking around with a couple of guards, and then all of a sudden a gang would attack them and they said we're going to kill you and give you as a gift for our God. And the king was really scared and really really didn't know what to do. And the guards didn't know what to do until they arrived wherever that village of the gang was. And so apparently the main leader checked them out and he said no, no, no, no, no. We can't take this as a present to our God. Let him go. And they asked why. And then he said well, look at his injury. We can't give away someone who has an injury. Let him go. So they let him go.

Speaker 1: 3:46

The king went back, he ordered that the assistant should come out of the prison, and then the assistant said see, I told you it's all good. And then the king said yeah, I know that. And then the assistant said and when you ordered for me to go to prison, I said it's all good again. And it was indeed good, because if I was with you on this trip, they would have taken me and killed me and gave me as a gift to their God.

Speaker 1: 4:24

Anyway, the wisdom of the story that this assistant, really, whatever he faced, whatever situation, he faced it with acceptance. And not only that, he saw beyond that. He programmed his mind that there is something good coming out of this, even if it's if it was, if it seemed like a challenge to him. And because the king did not have this wisdom, he was angry and even frustrated when he heard that, until he was affected and he saw the wisdom. And this can be an example for all of us in anything we go through in life.

Speaker 1: 5:15

And this is really what acceptance is all about. It's about allowing things to be as they are, without resisting them, without feeling into victimizing ourselves. Fall into circles of anger, circles of rage, circles of frustrations. Because this is what happens when we do not accept the events as they are, when we fall into the trap of stuckness. We feel stuck in circles of these angers and emotions. And accepting things does not mean that we don't let these emotions out. Of course not, because pain is part of life and it is part of dealing with disappointments, with dealing with losses, with dealing with tribulations. But acceptance means getting out of the bitterness of continuous pain. We don't want it to be forever, we don't want it to be the highlight of our life. So when we accept things, we let go of this bitterness. Accept things, we let go of this bitterness, we get out of the circle of suffering. And this is why acceptance is very, very important to put into practice in the daily life's disappointments. When we do it on the small things, it will will be so much easier for us to put acceptance into practice in the bigger events and bigger disappointments and the bigger tribulations.

Speaker 1: 7:09

So how do we put acceptance into practice? The best way is getting out of the questions and the thoughts that the automated reaction when we meet something that doesn't go with what we wanted and really hurt us. So getting out of the circle of why this is happening to me. I'm so unlucky, this is so bad. This is happening to me, I'm so unlucky, this is so bad. It shouldn't be this way Into the safe circle of acceptance, which is there is something good will come out of this.

Speaker 1: 7:49

I'm sure there is a wisdom behind this. It seems all bad or dark at the moment, but I'm sure there is greater goodness beyond this that I cannot see in my own human mind and my own limitations as a human being, and believing this and using this as a tool really helps in accepting the situation. Also and this is important to understand that there are things that we can control, but there are things with our human limitations that we cannot control, and understanding this will help us know what we can do and the things that we can control. We can control how we react to things. We can control the situation if it's, if there are things that we can control to fix it or improve it again, we can take these steps, and the quicker we accept things, the more power we have to take the right steps to improve the situation and get into the growth rather than the suffering. So, and then the things acknowledge that there are things that we cannot control. We cannot control bringing someone we love back to our lives. We can't bring them back to life. That's out of our control. We can't bring something else that we lost to life. We can't something else that we lost to life.

Speaker 1: 9:41

We can't, for example, change the situation when there is a huge traffic jam, so there's no point of resisting it or feeling angry or even, you know, crushing your car. Instead, you can see the good and say okay, this is a good time for me to sit with myself, to reflect, to listen to a calm and music, to listen to a good podcast. And these are the small acceptance situation in our daily lives. For example, you miss a bus. Instead of a swearing, or why did I miss the bus? I should have been there this time. Now I'm going to be late All these victimize and blame and anger questions you can say, okay, I can now take another bus, and then you actually see another bus coming and it's actually a shortcut and it's better than the other bus that you missed.

Speaker 1: 10:34

So when you practice it into your daily lives, it'll be so much easier to put into practice into bigger, more difficult hardships and events, and you feel always at peace, no matter what you face in life, when you face it with acceptance and getting out of this circle of victimizing yourself or blaming others, which all take your power away from you and give it to other people, to circumstances, and you feel very powerless and helpless. So your all energy go in the wrong places when you don't use acceptance as a tool of moving forward in life. So yeah, it's not easy, it takes practice. As I said, the more you put it into practice in the small situations, in the small life disappointments or that delivery didn't go in the right place or missing the bus or so many other things these are the small disappointments will help you when you face them with acceptance and have this self-awareness, self-control. It'll help you find acceptance and peace in the most difficult times, in the darkest situations.

Speaker 1: 12:11

So train yourself, keep doing it, don't give up on yourself. Also, make sure you connect with your physical body, with the mindful breathing that really helps us to accept things and get out of the circle that we have to react at the moment quickly and we have to fix things quickly. We have to be at the moment quickly and we have to fix things quickly. We have to be in control. No, mindful breathing really helps you to to accept things physically, which will help you mentally to accept things as well, and the other way around. So when you train yourself to do that, it really, really helps you through. At the end of this, I really want you to remember that acceptance is an act of self-kindness and self-compassion and it'll help you to process the pain in a good way for your heart, for your soul and for you to move forward and grow in life. Peace be with you all and looking forward to hearing your feedback and what you want to listen to in the next episodes. Salamat.