Discovering Self-Knowledge: 5 steps to help you know yourself better and feel in peace on a deeper level.

How well do you truly know yourself? Join Diline, on this week's episode of "In Peace," as we go on a deep journey of self-exploration. We'll be challenging the superficial understanding of who we are by going beyond our likes, dislikes, and hobbies. Instead, we'll focus on the inner world—our emotions, triggers, and the hidden aspects of ourselves that everyday routines often distract us from noticing. Through continuous self-reflection and new experiences, we can uncover hidden skills and aspects of ourselves that can lead us to inner peace and significant personal growth.

We'll also take a critical look at the values and beliefs that shape our actions and motivations. Are the unconscious beliefs passed down through society, media, and family serving us, or holding us back? This episode emphasizes the importance of aligning our lives with core values like justice, growth, and empowerment. By maintaining a daily journal to document experiences, feedback, and emotional triggers, we foster continuous personal growth and self-awareness. Through the transformative power of journaling, we not only lighten our emotional load but also become positive influences on those around us. Tune in and be inspired to share your insights and help create a broader impact for those on their own self-growth journeys.

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Chapters

• 0:00 The Importance of Self-Knowledge
• 22:20 Reflecting on Values and Beliefs
• 28:03 Journaling for Self-Reflection and Growth

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Hello, peace be upon you wherever you are on this planet. Welcome back to In Peace with me, delene Abouchaban, where we come every week to reflect, to heal and to grow. In today's episode I'm going to talk about really, one of the foundations of self-growth and healing, and without it you really can't heal properly and you really can't grow in life, and this is self-knowledge. I want to start with asking you do you really know who you are? Do you really know yourself? Of course you will answer and say of course I know who I am. Yes, I get it. Maybe you know the very basics. You know your likes, your dislikes. Maybe you know about your hobbies and how you like to spend your time, but do you really know the deeper things about yourself? And I know that those who listen to In Peace, I'm sure you are already a in the journey of self-discovery and and looking to improve yourselves, and I'm not trying to say that you you're not already in this journey of self-discovery, of self-knowledge, but we all need, at times, some reminders or some exercises to get to know ourselves better and to get to dig deeper really of who we really are, and this really helps us to to know the things about ourselves that we want to keep and and we want to improve more and the other things that maybe don't serve us anymore and we'd like to let go of, and without reflecting and doing regular exercises on getting to know ourselves where we are at this stage of our lives. Without that we're not going to grow and one can feel stuck where they are if they don't know themselves on a deeper level and if they don't do regular self-reflections and self-knowledge exercises. And self-knowledge it's a really ongoing thing. You you get to know layers and layers of yourself through life and, as we mentioned in in previous episodes, how sometimes events, people, situations come to us to to know a particular thing about us that we never realized it was there or we did not know about or we were not aware of. So this is why it's an ongoing thing and it's not like you know yourself now 100% and that's it. This is the person who you keep forever as you are.

Speaker 1: 3:53

No, this is again the wisdom of keeping regular self-knowledge exercises, because this is how we can improve and how we can grow. A we don't have to be the same person for our whole lives. A that means we're stuck where we are and there's no space for self growth. No, we want to become better persons and this is how we change, and change is a critical part of life if we want to live a fulfilling, peaceful life. So self-knowledge is about understanding our inner world world, understanding our emotions, our feelings, and this all helps us in life, helps us to maintain our inner peace, because imagine yourself living with someone that you don't know anything about, or maybe you just know the surface things about them. How can you live in peace with them if you don to leave and choose not to live with them because you don't know them? And that's fair enough, and this is as human beings we like to know in order to build the trust and then become closer to them? And imagine this person is you. You're always there with yourself. So, in order to be in peace with yourself, you need to understand yourself on a deeper level and you need to figure out the things that you can fix about yourself, the things that you want to improve. You need to understand things like your triggers, and all these things will help you always live in peace with who you are. So the more you know yourself, the more you live in peace within um. So that's really important and this is why we're talking about this in In Peace today, because it's one of the foundations of living in peace, of self-growth and of becoming more healed in this life.

Speaker 1: 6:57

So I'm sure so far, you're all saying, okay, this sounds really cool. You all saying, okay, this sounds really cool. I want to know more, how I can know more about myself, and I'm going to give you some steps. And, as I said, I'm aware that some of you already on this journey of self-discovery. So sometimes our ego can come across. Oh, I already know about this, there's no point of listening. But no, hang on, let's put our ego aside. And again, this is important for our healing. When we heal ourselves from our ego, that always tells us oh, we know it all, no need to learn more or no need to listen, because we all need reminders of this life that is full of distractions. So bear with me. You deserve some time to reflect. You deserve some time to reflect. You deserve some time to ask yourself some questions, to take some steps to get to know who you are better in order for you to grow. So these steps are really.

Speaker 1: 8:18

The first one is I recommend that you go on new experiences, experience new things in life. And in this way, when you experience new things, it's really it's like you're pushing yourself to experience, to get out of your comfort zone, and in this way you learn a lot about yourself. When you do that, because if you're feeling stuck in the same thing all the time the same job all the time, the same environment, just the same habits, the routine how can you, how can you know more about yourself, how can you know what you can do more or what you can achieve, or what, what things that are and skills that are hidden within you that you don't know about, because you're really living in this automated life, if you like. So when we, when you push yourself to to do new experiences, to go through new experiences, you really find out so many things about yourself that you didn't know were there. So it's a great way to know yourself more, know the things that you are capable of, through doing a new, going through new experiences and pushing yourself yourself to do new experiences. Go through new experiences in life, because in this way you get to know your strengths, you get to know the weaknesses that you maybe have and you're trying to avoid to face, and in this way you can improve, improve yourself and reflect how you can improve these weaknesses. Yeah, so this is really important to push yourself to go through new experiences. And when I say new experiences, I know your mind can go oh, it has to be something huge, or you need to travel the world or all these things, and and no, it really does not need to be anything big really can be pushing yourself to add a new habit in your day, like walking in the morning, waking up too early, and so these are new experiences. You're pushing yourself to do something new. Even cooking a new recipe. Trying that is a new experience and you can learn something about yourself through that that you didn't know before. And you can visit a new place which is not far away but you never visited. But again, it's a new experience. It can bring some new things that you get to know about yourself. So these things are new experiences and through experiencing these new things, yeah, it's an amazing way of getting to know yourself more and in a better way.

Speaker 1: 12:04

The second step, or second thing that can help you to get to know yourself more, is asking people, and asking people what they think about you, what they like most about you what they like most, about the way you come across, or what they find, things that you can grow that they're not sure about, that they're not sure about and when I say people, I don't know and I don't mean any random person, of course. These people need to be people that you trust. People, um, that on this journey of self-growth as well, not just any person. And also, if you choose to do this, you need to come with an open heart. Not come with a mindset of you know you'll be defensive if they say you know you'll be defensive if they say, if they face you with your limitation, or you become or you take offense. No, you come with an open heart that you're seeking this feedback or their opinion to improve and, again, it really helps you.

Speaker 1: 13:47

Also, they don't necessarily, they're not necessarily going to talk about limitations. They might surprise you and and tell you good things about yourself that you didn't know about yourself, and they're being really genuine and and they could see it a because they got to know you and maybe you don't know. A you don't know these things because you're very attached to yourself, that or you just think, oh, this is, this is how everybody else is like, or or stuff, or you're just with this limiting self-mind or too modest. So getting to hear the good things about yourself from other people really helps you to build your confidence, to work on these strengths that people saw in you and use them in your journey in a more effective way. So you get to get both, both things there the bright side about yourself from people, what people think and and the other things that you could improve. That also you you weren't aware of.

Speaker 1: 15:20

A again, welcoming these opinions and views with an open heart for growth is the way forward. If you choose to ask people really useful and it's a good way of self, a reflection through the eyes of people who really cared and on this journey again, and it'll get them as well to to trust you and to ask you what you thought, what you think about them, what things that you like about them and the other things. And again, in this way you help each other to grow, and this is amazing when it's always collective growth. So go for it. Don't be shy away from asking, and people really like to be asked and, yeah, and be truthful To express what they think about each other Great.

Speaker 1: 16:33

So the third step, a or really base of self-knowledge is to get into know the triggers of the negative emotions. So, when you are faced by emotions of anger, of anxiety, of sadness, sadness reflect. Where did these emotions come from? Was it really that because someone said something to you or was it because this particular thing that they said to you got you back to a memory of a really difficult event in the past? And when you're going through these regular reflections, it really liberates you of the victim mindset and it'll help you be on control, in control of these emotions, of how you feel, instead of giving the power to someone else to control your inner world or control your peace.

Speaker 1: 17:49

So it's a really important thing to reflect, when you have negative emotions, what triggered them, what this place made you feel or what this person made you feel. Why did you feel this way when they said that? And keeping these regular reflects will always keep you on track of your actions and reactions and with practice, you'll always feel in peace and even if someone really said something to you, you'll understand it's really about them, it's not about you and you'll. Of course, it might trigger something within you, but you'll let this emotion out the anchor without hurting anybody and in this way, you'll always find inner peace in every situation. Nobody will ever have the power to disturb your peace. So this is an important thing to reflect on the negative emotions, to learn to pause before reacting on people who can intimidate you, or on events or on places, and just give yourself time, give yourself some breathing, some tools that can help you be always in control of your reactions, of your triggers, of your emotions, and you'll always find peace in this way and it'll get you to understand yourself more and it'll get you to dig deep on past events, to liberate yourself from the impact of these events on you. So it's a very empowering thing to have and again, as I said from the beginning, this thing doesn't happen just once or twice and that say, okay, I understand myself. It's an ongoing thing, so a new event can happen, you can hear a new word that triggers something, and then you purify yourself through these triggers and the more these things happen, the more free you feel and the lighter you will feel from all these thoughts or these events in the past that hold you back and that can keep triggering you if you didn't reflect on them. Cool.

Speaker 1: 21:06

The next step that you can also use is really challenging yourself. Reflect on the beliefs, on the thoughts that you find yourself have. Reflect on them and challenge them. For example, if you have a thought that says you are an angry person, reflect then on how you are, not your emotions and these are emotions and you can deal with them, as we talked about in the previous step and you observe them, you let them out in the right way. Then you let go of them. So you're not the emotions, you're not an angry person. Yes, it happened, you had anger before, but you are not your anger. So this belief that you always tell yourself you're an angry person no, you're not. You can change that. You can let go of that because it just labels you.

Speaker 1: 22:20

Any other thoughts or beliefs that you had that maybe were passed through the society or through the media or through the family, that just was passed unconsciously and you started to believe it because this is how everybody else believes. It doesn't mean that you need to keep holding off. Um, you can liberate yourself through reflecting. Does this belief help me or does it holding me back? And let go of it if it holds you back, if it stops you from growing and again any other thoughts or ideas that hold you back. Let go of them, make peace with them and let go of them, but don't judge yourself for having them all this time or for thinking this way all this time. No, just acknowledge that this is part of life and maybe you had these thoughts and beliefs for a certain time as a way of helping you to grow through reflecting how they didn't serve you and they had to go now. So it's all part of the journey. They Five steps that you can ask yourself is what are the values that you really care about?

Speaker 1: 24:05

What are your values? That really motivates you in life, the values that are important to you, that influence your actions and the things that you do in life. What are these values? How can you do more to actually put these values into practice, to fulfill the beauty of these values? How can you let go of things? That really doesn't make you too truthful about caring about these values? And so it all needs regular a reflection with yourself. How are you with your values, whether it's justice, whether it's growth, whether it's empowering, whether it's beauty, any value, and how you put it into practice in your life, how you can do more to really serve these values that you have. It's really important because, really, our values is the motivation. It's like the engine that gets the car going. These are the values for us. It makes us do the things that we do. Despite the challenges or the difficulties, we keep going with the things that, fueled by our values. So it's always important to reflect on our values, reflects, reflects what's important to us, what we can do for these values.

Speaker 1: 26:06

The last thing, and really important thing, is that it's really a way for you, or a tool, to reflect on all the other five things that we just talked about. Whether it's adding experiences in your life new ones, a whether it's reflecting on people's who you trust, their opinions, whether it's a reflecting on your triggers, then challenging the beliefs and thoughts and your values. And this thing is basically writing a diary. So having a diary writing every day about yourself, right, about the new experiences you'd like to have, right About what a person gave you a compliment, maybe, or gave you a feedback, right that? A right about a situation that happened on your day that triggered a negative emotion, how you reacted. How can you improve your reaction next time. Where did that come from all? Write it down, write about a thought that came to you and made you feel not great. Where did this thought come from? How you can change it, let go of it, make peace with it.

Speaker 1: 27:39

Write about a belief that you have, um, that you become more aware of on that day. Um, does it serve you? Does it not serve you? Write about your values, what values you you practice today. What did you do to put this value into action today?

Speaker 1: 28:03

Write all these things down every single day in a diary and in this way it really is very helpful for your mind, for your eyes, to see what you wrote, for you to read it and, in this way, for you to keep growing and keep reflecting and changing the things that you can change and make peace with the things that you can't change. And in this way you'll always keep on track with the journey of self-growth and you'll always feel in peace, instead of holding negative emotions in or holding on to the negative thoughts you have and keeping believing them. Because when you think a thought for so long, it becomes a belief and and sometimes it's more difficult to get rid of beliefs. But when you do this regular reflects and regular writing of about your day it helps you to keep on track and, you know, liberate yourself from all these negative thoughts because you're aware you're more mindful of them. You can let go of them and in this way, you really feel lighter in this life and you become not just light for yourself, but also for people who you interact with and for the world. Really.

Speaker 1: 29:54

So, yeah, these are the steps and the reflections I wanted to share about how we can know ourselves more and on a deeper level, or do that helps you to know yourself? By sending us an email, commenting it all helps to create a bigger impact and encouraging others to grow. And remember to share the podcast so more people get to work on themselves, on more people get to work on their self-growth. And, yeah, I am really looking forward to connecting with you again next week. In the meantime, I wish you all all goodness, all health, all healing in the world for you and for all brothers and sisters who are suffering at the moment. May we all find peace and always connect with it. And, yeah, see, connect with you next week and Salamat.